A lot of my posts are about struggles. It’s always been my intention to try and give a voice to the tough times that often don’t get mentioned in our social media pool of perfection. It does mean that my own life can sometimes look a bit gruesome. So today’s post is basically my way of saying “Hey Mum and Dad, look I do have good days too, don’t worry.”.
I tried to think of how I’d describe a good day then I got worried that if other people didn’t feel they had the same things they might take a good day and view it as rubbish. I think every time I’m feeling good I’d probably list a completely different set of reasons for why I feel good on that day. The thing those lists would probably have in common is that it’s about how I feel doing tasks, and how I feel towards myself, for me it isn’t really about what jobs get done. I’ve had awful days where I’ve been really productive and fantastic days where I’ve not got much done. To do lists are great ways to motivate yourself and keep organised but it doesn’t score your worth, not crossing any items off because you needed a day cuddling teddies does not make you less valuable.
One of the struggles I have long term is accepting the good days within the bad. There’s always guilt somewhere:
- guilty for not fixing myself on other days,
- guilty for not making the most of good days,
- guilty for feeling good whilst others feel bad,
- guilty for feeling good in the middle of a global pandemic.
And I’m sure there are many more.
It’s really hard when your brain bullies yourself so often to accept good things. We are so used to telling ourselves we are rubbish it’s very easy to feel we don’t deserve good things.
YOU DESERVE EVERY AWESOME MOMENT YOU GET.
The anxiety guilt isn’t going to fix any of the problems you feel guilty about. Enjoy the good and happy moments, whether it’s the fact you managed to get out of bed without arguing with yourself or you got on with work without your body freezing. Give yourself the metaphorical gold star (or a real one, why don’t more adults have sticker charts?). Your struggles don’t make you less deserving of this good day, so enjoy it, savour it, bank away the memory and take the win.